Every couple shudders at the thought of cutting their wedding list in half when the time to send out official invitations draws nearer. It becomes even more daunting when you both come from large families, and are mr and miss popular amongst your friends.

The dream of having a “small” wedding seems all to un-real, and you find yourselves having to make some tough decisions that you wish you didn’t have to make. But darlings, you do.

Here, real brides just like you, share their tips and tricks that they used while planning their guest list. We sure hope you’ve got your laptop on and your fingers ready, because you’re in for a doozie!

Money Talks or People Walk

“At the end of the day, if you have enough money to have the wedding guest list of your dreams, then do it! Go wild, and invite every family member, extended family member, friend, acquaintance, and even plus one’s if you’d like,” says Marie M. If you don’t however, and funding is a bit limited, then sit down with your significant other and really focus on immediate family members and close friends to invite.

If you’re parents decide to chip in and assist with the big day, then great! But remember that you will be need to compromise a bit on your preferred guest list as they may want to invite a few people of their own. In this case, it should be fine, as long as they don’t invite their entire office to your wedding!

Don't Overthink, Just Cut

“A good trick is to create your dream wedding list, inclusive of all family members and their children, friends and their plus ones, acquaintances, and any other possible hopefuls that you may be interested in, and then… “trim the fat”, says Ana K.

Begin cutting out:

  1. Individuals who you may not have spoken to or seen in the past 9 – 12 months
  2. People who you are an acquaintance with, and wouldn’t necessarily consider them a close friend
  3. Plus one’s of your friends who are not in a long term relationship
  4. Individuals who you may feel guilty about not inviting, even though they are neither a family relative or your friend.

It will be a challenging process, but a necessary one to keep those numbers down and cut cost.

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Prioritise

Making a wish list for your wedding day is certainly worth it. As part of your wedding planning to do’s, especially if you decide not to hire a wedding planner, take some time to jot down the must have’s for your wedding day with your significant other.

Put things in order of priority:

  1. Small Wedding with less than 100 guests
  2. Large Wedding with more than 200 – 250 guests
  3. Outdoor / Indoor
  4. Local / Destination

“The trick is to keep it concise. You already have enough things on your plate while planning for this special day, so try to decide early on what truly matters to both you and your partner”, says Elisa C.

The Kid Dilemma

Kids are just the most precious things, and as much as every bride to be would love to have a million by her side for cute wedding pictures and memories, they do come at a price.

The choice to invite families is always a difficult one, since this could include anywhere between 4 – 10 persons depending on the family size. And even though you may have a close relationship with every member, inviting each one means an extra seat, plate, drink(s), and addition to your already large wedding list.

“Ultimately, it truly boils down to your budget and what it would allow. If you can cater for each child, then by all means, invite them all”, Rishka A. But if your set with a tight budget (like most couples are), then opting out this option may be wise in the long run.

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Fly out!

Destination weddings are the best! According to Group Travel:

  1. 1 out of every 4 weddings is a destination wedding
  2. The top three locations for destination wedding outside the continental US are Caribbean, Mexico and Hawaii.
  3. The average number of guests at a destination wedding is 86. The average number of guests at a traditional wedding is 141.
  4. Jamaica continues to be the heavy leader in all Caribbean destination weddings. In fact, the study showed that more than one in three Caribbean destination weddings take place in Jamaica, which netted a whopping 34 percent of the votes.

So, look at that. If you’re interested in cutting that wedding list by more than 20%, then a destination Caribbean wedding is a fantastic way to go. Not only would you able to have your wedding and honeymoon all in one, but you will be able to share this moment with your closest family & friends in a gorgeous Caribbean island surrounded by white sandy beaches, local cuisine and breathtaking views. What’s not to love?

Tip: If you require any further assistance with your destination wedding planning, please contact one of these exceptional professionals for more information.

Hey friends! What do you think? What tips do you have for brides to be to help save money on their wedding guest list?

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